What I failed to mention in my last post was that we were actually expecting Bethany to arrive this Friday but were waiting to receive confirmation today before we made it public. It's a good thing we did because I just found out from Lisa at our agency that by the time she got back in touch with Korea, all the flights for Friday had already been booked. Currently there is a shortage of flights because The Lunar New Year is coming up and it's always a very busy time for travel in Korea. Hopefully, we will hear something soon after the new year.
I knew I would be disappointed if it didn't happen Friday but I didn't realize just how disappointed and emotional I would be. Let's just say there is a lot less Kleenex at our house now. I know it's just a few extra days but I honestly thought the wait was finally over. Although I wish Bethany were in my arms right now, I trust that God's timing is good and perfect. That truth doesn't make my sadness go away but it does give me hope and the ability to rejoice in the midst of it.
The good news is that Bethany is in fact ready to come home and it's just a matter of waiting for an available flight. Also, someone on the Holt boards reminded me that this gives Bethany a few extra days with her foster family, the only family she has ever known. When I think about it from that perspective, I feel so selfish to want to bring her home so quickly. I can only imagine the heartache her foster family must be feeling as they prepare to let go of someone they have loved and cared for for the past ten months.
I realize that most of the time we tend to view adoption only as gains. For example, the child "gains" a new family, the adoptive family "gains" a new member.... but far too often we forget about the incredible losses felt by not only the child, but by the foster family, birth parents and the community around her. As our family rejoices at our "gain", there are those who at the same time will be grieving the loss of a loved one. I hope that in the midst of my joy, I will remember and pray for those Bethany has left behind.
Monday, February 8, 2010
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I think we do get caught up in the preparation and forget what our children will be losing. Thank you being open with your emotions.
Oh Jenny...you're such a sweet person. I know that it was really hard for Ella's foster mother after she left. I didn't really think about that until we got an email from her asking about how Ella's doing. I saw how deep her loss was and how urgently she needed to know Ella was ok. The last few days will be good for them.
oh jenny, what a sweet yet painful post. praying for you all! but man, could there BE any more delays?!
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